On May 21, 2012 I will no longer be a member of a dating website...just like the last time, I have mixed emotions, but I'm not going to go all drama queen on you and write another "Letter to Match.com", I'm going to post some thoughts instead:
1. Match should really start making members undergo a series of questions and evaluations to make sure they are all stable human beings. If they are not stable, or have some kind of problem (ie being a sex addict) they should direct them to resources that might be helpful to the individual, instead of suggesting me as a 'Daily Match'.
2. If you are the SLIGHTEST bit insecure, do not go on Match.com. I'm not really sure how other sites work (I was on eHarmony for a hot second when I was drunk on NYE years ago, but I didn't even fill out my own profile; I should've known it would be downhill from there) but the fact that you can see if and when someone read your email, if they're 'online now' or if they've viewed your profile just makes the dating game THAT much harder. I honestly never considered myself to be insecure until I started online dating and I'm really looking forward to getting back to the 'old me'.
3. Over analyzing is exhausting. I came out of MANY first dates trying to figure out how it went (9 times out of 10 it was awful) and how I could fix it. And as much as I don't want to admit it, there was a lot of frustration over things that were beyond my control (ie the guy who told me he was divorced when his wife was in rehab unaware of his filing for said divorce); The only conclusion I've come to is that it's not me, it's them. I'm kidding (kind of). The real conclusion I've drawn is that if you're not compatible, it's just not going to work. It's plain and simple. It has nothing to do with me being a sarcastic wench or them being a short, cocky, orange-tanned, popped-collared idiot...it ONLY has to do with the fact that we aren't what each other was looking for at the time (or in some cases, ever).
4. You can't take yourself to seriously and expect to be a successful at online dating. Luckily I had an outlet with my blog and had other people help me laugh about the insanity. If I didn't write about some of these people/experiences, this entire process would've been different and I think I would've come out of it emotionally damaged (hold your jokes, please).
5. I think I'm ending it on a high note...the golfer was the last person I met in person through the website. Hold the phones, I'm not saying that he's 'the one' or anything crazy!! I'm just saying that he's a completely normal, handsome (I hate that word, by the way), smart, funny guy and it's nice to know that they do exist. Even if there's no next date, I know not to lower my standards, because even though they are few and far between, there are people out there who exceed your expectations and when you meet them, you don't take them for granted because you think about all of the nonsense you've dealt with in the past.
Happy Hump Day!
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