Happy Monday! I had another date on Saturday with ‘the golfer’ and it’s official, he’s one of the nicest guy on the planet. Since he’s so damn nice, I decided to go to my favorite source (AskMen.com) and see what they had to say about chivalry.
They had republished a list from Modern Man by Robin Hilmantel:
Do: Guide her through the room
Put your hand on the small of her back as you’re walking together at a party or a restaurant and you might as well be George Clooney in her mind. Just make sure to keep your hand a solid four inches above her ass or you risk crossing into skeevy-perv territory. - Alright people this is a major do! And Robin hit the nail on the head with the 'ass' comment.
Put your hand on the small of her back as you’re walking together at a party or a restaurant and you might as well be George Clooney in her mind. Just make sure to keep your hand a solid four inches above her ass or you risk crossing into skeevy-perv territory. - Alright people this is a major do! And Robin hit the nail on the head with the 'ass' comment.
Do: Open the car door for her
Any guy can (and should) hold a door open for a woman. It’s something strangers do for other strangers entering a CVS. But you actually have to walk to the other side of the car to open that door for us. I’m not saying you have to do it every time, but on a first date or a special occasion, this simple gesture can score you major points. - I know a lot of people see this as the ultimate sign of chivalry and yes, it can be very sweet. However, if we are at my car, I had to open my door on my own to drive to the date, so why all of a sudden am I incapable to open it myself after the date? If you are picking me up to go somewhere and you beep (which is actually another issue), please don't beep the horn, get out of your car, walk around said car and open my door...it's a waste of time and defeats the purpose of beeping in the first place (not getting out of your car).
Any guy can (and should) hold a door open for a woman. It’s something strangers do for other strangers entering a CVS. But you actually have to walk to the other side of the car to open that door for us. I’m not saying you have to do it every time, but on a first date or a special occasion, this simple gesture can score you major points. - I know a lot of people see this as the ultimate sign of chivalry and yes, it can be very sweet. However, if we are at my car, I had to open my door on my own to drive to the date, so why all of a sudden am I incapable to open it myself after the date? If you are picking me up to go somewhere and you beep (which is actually another issue), please don't beep the horn, get out of your car, walk around said car and open my door...it's a waste of time and defeats the purpose of beeping in the first place (not getting out of your car).
Do: Move her to the inside of the sidewalk
Every woman likes to think that you’d rather she not be run over by an Escalade. Make this move and she’ll know it’s the truth. Plus, it’s a perfect way to show her your protective side without coming off like a controlling jerk. - This is a good one! Not that I want my date to get hit by the Escalade, but if it has to be one of us, there's more of a chance that he'll recover faster :-)
Every woman likes to think that you’d rather she not be run over by an Escalade. Make this move and she’ll know it’s the truth. Plus, it’s a perfect way to show her your protective side without coming off like a controlling jerk. - This is a good one! Not that I want my date to get hit by the Escalade, but if it has to be one of us, there's more of a chance that he'll recover faster :-)
Don’t: Write her a love letter
Sending her a sappy email about how amazing your third date was might be cute to her after the first read, but at least one of the five friends she’ll forward it to will convince her that the note means you’re a player or a stalker (or both). So step away from the keyboard. - Yes girls forward emails (see any entry in this blog). Yes girls seek advice from their friends. Yes I have told a friend that a guy was insane based on an email I've read. Yes I have received emails that have convinced me someone was crazy. You should not write a girl you're not seriously dating a love letter. EVER.
Sending her a sappy email about how amazing your third date was might be cute to her after the first read, but at least one of the five friends she’ll forward it to will convince her that the note means you’re a player or a stalker (or both). So step away from the keyboard. - Yes girls forward emails (see any entry in this blog). Yes girls seek advice from their friends. Yes I have told a friend that a guy was insane based on an email I've read. Yes I have received emails that have convinced me someone was crazy. You should not write a girl you're not seriously dating a love letter. EVER.
Don’t: Insist on paying for everything
Offering to foot the bill for dinner and drinks when you first start dating is fine. But suggesting that you fund shopping sprees and mani-pedi appointments? Don’t do it. You’ll come off like a showoff prick who’s enabling her to become dependent on you for everything she wants. - How do you think your date lived before you?
Don’t: Let her win
Throw the game and she’ll know you held back and will assume that you’re sexist, or she’ll believe you’re actually that terrible at arm wrestling or Words With Friends. Neither scenario makes her want to see you again. However, if you’re legitimately en route to victory, don’t rub it in her face by running up the score. That’s just being a dick. - SO true. I'd rather date a guy that kicked my ass at every single activity we competed in than a guy who 'let' me beat him at something.
In case you were wondering, 'the golfer' successfully completed 2/3 ‘Do’s’.
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