Venting Session Pt. 1

I'm not sure why this didn't auto post...but today's your lucky day, because you're getting Part 1 AND Part 2 in the same day!


My online dating disasters are not a new topic for any of us. However, this weekend, more precisely, Sunday at approximately 9:32 pm (the time I'm writing this) I have had enough.  There is a guy that I've been talking to via email/text for two months (despite the fact that he has ONE picture up on line)...and I have never met him.  I will be the first person to admit that it's not normal to talk to someone for that long and never meet, but it's not like we haven't tried to meet and here's where the story begins:

2 weeks ago we decided we were going to meet during Labor Day weekend (he lives about an hour and a half from me and after commuting home from work the LAST thing I want to do is get in my car and drive to a remote meeting spot in PA and go on a date with a stranger that probably won't end well given my dating history).  It's easier to break this down for you if I highlight some of our conversations in chronological order (unedited of course).

August 30
Him: Are u busy over the weekend
Me: Umm..a little bit.  I'm busy on both Saturday and Monday afternoon, but that's it.  What about you?
Him: Let's do something
Me: Haha...Okay!
Him: Saturday is the start of college football big day Saturday haha, I'm good Sunday or Monday, Friday I work until 11 so it might be to late
Me: Let's do Sunday
Him: Sounds Good

Random texts back and forth about nonsense continue for the rest of the day and on August 31, It's nothing that will effect the outcome of this situation, I assure you.

August 31
Me: What do you want to do Sunday?
Him: What do you like to do, Im up for anything
Me: I'm up for anything too

September 1
Him: I'll look around, see what I can find

Again, random texts continue.

Him: You can make a decision what do you wanna do
Me: ...Or you could make a decision :-) lol
Him:  Haha alright, we're only 1 15 from each other   (I don't have my real town on my profile, I used to work in law 'enforcement' and 60% of my cases started or ended online...I'm not stupid!)
Me: That's not bad at all

September 2 and 3 had random talking yet again...and in case you were wondering Kourtney is his favorite Kardashian sister.

September 3
Him: Where we going tomorrow it's a mystery
Me: Mystery as in you're not telling me, or mystery as in you have no idea? lol
Him: The second one lol
Him: I have no problem finding something to do, just a city to meet.

September 4, 3:26pm
Me: Do u still want to try to hang out tonight?

That's 24 hours passed without him responding, on the day we were supposed to meet

September 5, 4:52pm
Him: Heyy
Me: Hi
Him: I'm driving to the Phillys game (Did I ask what you were doing?  I don't think so, I'm pretty irked.)
Me: Fun, except it's the Phillies
Him: Haha I bet the Phillies go farther than the Yankees
Me: I'll take that bet, you're 100% wrong
Him: I'll put 100 on that bet (Note to self: Another reason not to date Philadelphia sports fans, they're not very bright)
Me: Deal
Me: So what did you end up doing last night?
Him: I ended up doing nothing, it's pouring (I don't care about the weather in Philly.  You did NOTHING?! Oh that's funny...I'm pretty sure you had plans)
Me: Oh, interesting
Him: What did you do
Me: I was supposed to meet this guy, but didn't hear from him, so I went out with some friends
Him: Yeah I know that's my fault, I work 3-11 all week (Um, I'm sorry, do you have a surprise schedule at work?  Most people know at least a week a head of time when they are working for the next week, even if they don't work a 9-5.)
Me: That's fine, I just wish you would've said something Saturday (You know, like when we were talking about hanging out and what we were going to do)
Him: We need to make plans and go out soon lol (Yeah, because that worked so well yesterday,so let's try it again)
Me: I'll believe it when I see it...lol
Him: It's gonna happen
Me: lol...okaaayyyyyyy
Him: What's your town again?
Me: TOWN NAME

Okay...I am looking for ANY explanation for this behavior.  I don't care if you defend him...I don't care if you tear him a new butt hole, but If someone can make sense out of this, I would greatly appreciate it.  How you do make plans with someone (I realize there wasn't exactly a 'plan' per se, but there was a meeting in place) and just NEVER contact them about it?!  WTF...if you have something else to do, I completely get it...send a text and be on your way!  But for me to leave a day open to hang out with you and then you just completely blow me off....that's 100% inconsiderate! It's even crazier to me that we talked about it literally 24 hours prior and instead of coming up with ANYTHING to do, you did "nothing".

This isn't the first time I've had a 'phantom date'...The farmer was notorious for doing stuff like this...but that doesn't make this any less frustrating...he's lucky he's tall and athletic and that I give everyone at least a second chance (except Armani boy)....This story isn't over by any means....Part 2 comes in tomorrow's post.