So I re-read my previous post and I kind of felt bad for outing these guys...However, I don't use names and I doubt they will ever start reading my blog and if they do....they cant sue me for defamation, so I stopped feeling bad and am now outing another one.
This particular guy lives the town over from me and approached me via the website that rhymes with 'catch' his email said: "Hey! How are you? I'm pretty new at this online thing and I never know quite what to say. But your profile caught my attention, we seem to have some things in common, and your pretty cute, that never hurts."
After a ton of emails back and forth we decided to go bowling (always a fun first date, even though I am a TERRIBLE bowler). It was a little awkward, as most blind dates are (see the previous post) but it was fine after a while. He actually ended up reminding me of a really good friend that I grew up with, so I was a little bit more comfortable. He had a crazy job and worked non-conventional hours, so talking to him after the date was via GChat/text. We were talking like normal (everyday) and talking about seeing each other again and then one day we didn't talk (I actually didn't even realize that we didn't talk until I got the first text of the conversation below).
HIM: "Hey there, sorry I've been MIA, its been a crazy week with work and I decided to take over a lease to help my friend in CITY NAME...I like talking with you and had a great time hanging out so it kinda stinks that we gotta throw a wrench in this thing"
First of all, we didn't talk for ONE day, I didn't think that was MIA, but whatever, that's neither here nor there. Second of all, my best friend lives in CITY NAME and I'm there at least 3 weekends a month..It's a 25 minute drive from my house, I don't need a passport to get there! Prior to this, we've actually discussed my best friend living there and how often I'm in the area...not to mention that I work 2 miles from CITY NAME. It's also a mile big...literally ONE mile, I don't know why he thinks that we're not going to run into each other.
After a little contemplation (I decided the above paragraph would've been a little much) I responded with the nonchalant: "No worries, hope you have a good move!" to which he responded: "Thx" (that's right, he didn't even have time for the a, k, s)
Okay, the moral of the story, is that it's MUCH easier if people are honest!! If he would've said "You know, this isn't going to work, you're too ________(adjective)" it would've made sense. OR if he said "You know, I decided that work was too crazy and I really don't have time to date" even if it wasn't entirely true, it would have made sense. Hell, he could've said "You know, I met someone else and we're having a really good time and she lives in CITY NAME so we'll be really close" and that would've made sense too!! But to create a fake problem and then say "we're" throwing a wrench in "this" that's just not fair. I'm not throwing anything anywhere and you clearly have a geography issue...and since geography was my minor in college and I know how far away places are from one another, you're going to be the one that looks pretty damn silly when we end up at the same bar in CITY NAME.
Moral of the story: Guys, be HONEST, even if you're trying to 'let someone down easy' or don't think the truth is 'nice' or a 'good enough excuse'...we're all grown-ups, I promise you girls are tougher than you think and we're not all insane and going to stalk your life...especially after a date or two. And when you tell the truth, it makes you look like less of an idiot, especially when we show the text message(s) to our friends and when you post pictures of you and your girlfriend on facebook.
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